ANGRY OUTER CHILD AND PAINFUL INNER CHILD – There is a child inside of you that have not grown emotionally. Read what that’s all about.

“The child is in me still and sometimes not so still.” – Mr. Rogers Understanding the Inner Child Out inner child is representative of our subconscious emotional and mental pain. He is derived from people and events in our lives that resulted in trauma and/or neglect. The inner child, who …

How to Listen Without Getting Defensive

Understanding your partner requires the capacity to listen. Really listen. Couples are advised to hear each other’s complaints without feeling attacked, and as great as this sounds, it’s often unrealistic. When something you said (or didn’t say) hurts your partner’s feelings, there’s a strong impulse to interrupt with, “That wasn’t my …

Looking for Love Insurance

At one of my three-day workshops (at Breitenbush Hot Springs in Oregon – beautiful place!), one of the participants said he played the caretaker role in his relationship. He’d hoped that attending to her needs might insure that she would never want to ever leave him because he’d made himself so very valuable in …