“Pastor Ben is compassionate.  He helped me realize how much I’ve stuffed my pain all these years and blamed myself for it.  I had no idea that my mom’s criticism became my own criticism.  Had I not realize this I could have hurt my own children with that same voice.  But now I hear God’s voice in His promises and I believe what He has to say about my self worth.”

– Sandra C.

“There is something about Pastor Ben.  The first day I met him he made me cry like a baby.  He is able to see deep down in my heart where my real self is and converses with the person in me that I had not known.  He brings out the scared child in me and walks me through.  I’ve always been afraid to talk about my true feelings.  But Pastor Ben makes me feel safe.”

– James L.

“My family was in shambles.  I knew I was the one causing so much pain to my whole family.  My daughter couldn’t take it anymore and she gave me the ultimatum.  ‘Either get help or I’m leaving this family!’  Those words haunted me and ask my pastor to find someone to help our family.  After almost 1 year of meeting with Pastor Ben every week my family has been healing and feel so free from my own mistakes and my the guilt that I’ve been stacking on top of each other for the last 45 years of my life.  I had no idea that my childhood wounds can cause this much pain for my family.  I’m so glad that I reached out.”

– Sung Shil P.

“I did everything that my parents wanted me to do all my life and I never disobeyed.  It seemed like the right thing to do as a Christian but I couldn’t figure out why I was so unhappy and just feel so depressed.  I listened to his seminar and my eyes opened for the first time in my life.  I was so glad to attend his seminar and eventually received the coaching from him.  I learned the I was missing that boundary in my life and that I’ve become my parents’ possession.  I didn’t have an identity of my own.  I became what they wanted me to be.  It took some time but I realized I needed to get over this fearful hurdle and just become who I am.  My parents learned to accept me for who I am now and my relationship with them is so much better.  Thanks PB & J (Pastor Ben and Jesus!).

– Jane L.

“I have no words to say thank you than just thank you.  My wife left me twice and vowed to never come back after the third.  She was already in a relationship with another man and I thought my life is over.  We’ve both been in church all our lives but really never learned to be adults and couples.  I was angry at Pastor Ben in the beginning for his straight forwardness.  But I learned that anger came from somewhere back in my childhood and that I had pushed my wife away.  I blamed her for my own hurts.  Pastor Ben helped me to realize that she was not the cause of my anger.”

– Samuel K.

“Hey Pastor Ben!  Thank you for listening to me with such compassion and understanding.  All my life I felt like no one ever understood me.  But I think you really understand me and accept me for who I am.  God sent you into my life at the right time.  I don’t know why my family has such history of brokenness and divorce.  But I am determined to stop that trend and I’ll be asking you for more help.  Thanks bro!”

– Casius Y.